On a fateful Wednesday, my darling and me were discussing on "fried kway tiao with cockles" Somehow I wanted to eat them but he insisted that I CAN't coz its dangerous...
Feeling very upset, somehow I gave in and compromised... Though i asked for accomodation whereby i still eat them in moderation... somehow call its male's pride or what, he refused it...
Immediately the next day, Thursday, my boyfriend drove me out for supper and apologised for being harsh the day before... Awe.. girls are girls.. My heart melted for a while...
Somehow after supper, I heard a sentence that seemed to indicate that 'cockles eating' was ok.! and I thought there were hope for this issue to settle in my way! However bringing it up provoked him again and we got even more upset...
From midnight to dawn, somehow this issue was unsettled.
Tears rolled, tantrums thrown... aiyoyo.. Nobody gave in... I bet this must be the worst quarrel ever... =(
By Friday morning, we ended up again with me compromising; the no cockles rule.. We met up the same night and hmm.. The serene him actually said, 'I went back to think about it, i think i think I was wrong to stop you from 'eating cockles'. You were right, I shouldn't control you... you just have to ensure that you are free from danger and ' eat with strings attached'... However, its best when we 'share the cockles together someday later.'
By Sunday, after talking to rui and yen leng, I somehow made up my mind to go ahead with 'eating cockles'. I mean It doesn't mean I don't love my darling anymore, I feel that the 'amount of cockles' i am eating is reasonable and I am so sure my darling wants the best for me and he loves me lots. Furthermore, i feel that this always compromising on either side is unhealthy in a relationship. We need to start accomodating and supporting each other.I went ahead to eat the cockles.
Strangely enough, somehow today which is the following Tuesday,(2 days after i made my decision) he no longer harps on the 'cockles issue' and harp on feeling hurt. Instead, he feeds me with 'cockles' and help me 'wash' and 'cook' them such that they are clean for me to 'consume'. He ensures that i have the right 'untensils' before eating 'cockles'... =) he thought about how to make sure 'eating cockles remain safe for me'...
Through this incident, i finally see what is meant by this statement,
' To love is to sacrifice'
Although my darling hated the idea of me 'eating cockles', he didn't gave up on me, on us, when he knew i was insistent. Instead, he sacrifice his ego and accepted me. Now, he tries to build up my happiness and safety and 'cleans' my cockles. Wow... i am really grateful to God for I have such a concerned bf. You know how some guys insisted on their stands due to PRIDE and EGO, not entirely concerned...
I loved him, am loving him and will love him.
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